"a passionate woman is worth the chaos."
"Time was passing like a hand waving from a train I wanted to be on.
I hope you never have to think about anything as much as I think about you."
"Absence, the highest form of presence."
James Joyce, A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man
It's not transphobic to not personally want to sleep with a girl who has a penis, it'd be transphobic to do other things such as; berate them for it, use improper pronouns, not want to associate with them because of it or actively hate against them.
No it 100% is transphobic
You are literally just as bad as all the homophobic pricks in this world